Beyond Just A Healing Place: Lisa Frey Of Fat Cat Longevity


September 16, 2023 Update: While Lisa currently does not run Fat Cat Longevity one can still reach out via:

fatcatlongevity@gmail.com
https://facebook.com/freyflow


After participating in events and facilitating meditations at Fat Cat Longevity for quite some time now, I finally sit down with the care and wellness honcho herself Lisa Frey:

  • short bio
  • teaching
  • More Natural Cures Revealed book [amazon affiliate program link]
  • health and life coaching
  • how Lisa came upon Mary’s House of Healing
  • visiting Lunar Healing
  • how she started Fat Cat Longevity
  • singing bowls
  • rotating Wednesday meditations at Fat Cat
  • Lisa’s work with clients
  • weight loss
  • identifying and changing habits
  • looking inward
  • self talk
  • choices
  • self care
  • empowerment
  • encouragement
  • self-awareness without being judgmental
  • inner child work
  • journaling
  • programming
  • childhood and adult trauma
  • healing trauma with energy work and meditation
  • memories, perspectives and perceptions
  • narcissism
  • gas lighting
  • boundaries
  • manipulation
  • “success” with unconscious survival tactics as a habit
  • deception
  • abuse
  • everything as love or a cry for love
  • resent for over-giving
  • being assertive
  • not always saying yes
  • feeling good about self-care
  • boundaries shedding light on manipulation
  • self-honesty
  • talking about and stating feelings
  • integrating new affects of healing
  • micro and macro narcissism
  • subleasing to psychologist Amber Quintas (sp?)
  • Wednesday book club
  • weekend availability for events, retreats, workshops

Audio: Beyond Just A Healing Place: Lisa Frey Of Fat Cat Longevity

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An Integrating Presence Meditation Circle at Fat Cat Longevity Wednesday November 17, 2021

Experience meditation circling from 6:00pm – 6:45pm Wednesday, November 17th, 2021 at Fat Cat Longevity [https://facebook.com/freyflow] downstairs next to Peace Love Coffee at Mary’s House of Healing, on Main Street in St Charles, MO.

After participating in several online meditation circles, and facilitating my first one in September resulting in beneficial feedback, I wish to continue.

We’ll each bring our meditation experiences to interacting with one another and can then apply beneficial circling takeaways to deepen and enrich our meditation practices.

We start by taking on truth and presence as ground rules by refraining from speaking deliberate falsehoods while setting aside talk of past and future events and of folks who aren’t in the circle.

Additionally, for energetic cleanliness, we take self-responsibility for welcoming our experiences with acceptance while leaning into communication, relation and articulation.

Then, after a brief period for questions, and a few moments of silence, circling starts.

Without giving too much away, most of the circling involves verbalizing and mutually interacting with various mindfulness based meditation practices.

The practice wraps up with another short silence followed by a group debrief and ends with another moment of silence.

Fat Cat Longevity

Mary’s House of Healing
524 South Main Street
Downstairs at Fat Cat Longevity next to Peace Love Coffee…
St. Charles, MO 63301

November 17th 2021 — 6:00pm – 6:45pm

Doors open: 5:50pm — Doors close: 6:05pm

Cost: Fat Cat Longevity price packagesmonthly membership or generosity inspired donation

Multi-month Pāramitā (Attainments/Perfections) Challenge For August, September And October 2021

When presented with “The Pāramitā Challenge” I accepted and here we are. In addition to the Pāramitās or Perfections, so far, the challenge also includes precepts and the 52 Stages of the Bodhisattva Path and Bodhisattva vows.

So far, instructions are to journal contemplations resulting from observed intentions, opportunities, and actions to be generous, moral and ethical while arousing faith in the Triple Gem then seeing where/when confident and where/when in doubt.

For whatever reasons the first month I received was for October 2021, so I started recording right away and kept recording after receiving August and September. Therefore, while these first three months are condensed into one long recording, and still in chronological order for the listener, going forward recordings plan to be one month at a time until ending, thus spending a proper full month on each. While mostly very listenable, quality is sometimes less than ideal due to recording environment. I also edited out most of the silences between speaking to save on listening time.

I’ve not taken Bodhisattva vows, and so with little instruction in Mahāyāna Buddhism, apart from maybe a smidgen of the zen stuff, there’s the benefit of beginner’s mind is a nice way to put it. I shoot from the hip with a lot in this recording and will often use a Theravada lens and a lot of inquiry as I ponder out loud. It may come off at times as criticism and sometimes it may actually be, but these are mostly solo efforts at summonings what is really meant by the material.

(Past) material for the Pāramitā Challenge is now at https://maba-usa.org/paramita-challenge.

https://fineartamerica.com/featured/paramis-dave-wood.html
The Pāramīs in Theravāda Buddhism:
  1. Dāna pāramī: generosity, giving of oneself
  2. Sīla pāramī: virtue, morality, ethics, proper conduct
  3. Nekkhamma pāramī: renunciation
  4. Paññā pāramī: wisdom, discernment
  5. Viriya pāramī: energy, diligence, vigour, effort
  6. Khanti pāramī: patience, tolerance, forbearance, acceptance, endurance
  7. Sacca pāramī: truthfulness, honesty
  8. Adhiṭṭhāna pāramī : determination, resolution
  9. Mettā pāramī: goodwill, friendliness, loving-kindness
  10. Upekkhā pāramī: equanimity, serenity
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Wisdom Snippets: Inquiry / Investigation

“…people are prepared to transcend all moral boundaries to sustain their view and to fixate upon it beyond all reason. Beyond investigation. Investigation is considered a conspiracy. To actually try to find truth is considered a deviant occupation…”

~Ajahn Sucitto

Why even bother with investigation or inquiry? Perhaps inquire, assess and question with intent to lead toward true knowledge, liberation and the (long-term) well-being of all. Know the truth of the way things actually are and then align with truth to bring great happiness. But how and why does aligning with truth bring happiness? Maybe it’s time to investigate for oneself?

One of the primary draws to the Buddhadharma (for me) is the encouragement to deeply, throughly, and fully investigate horizontally, vertically, and beyond. “Ehi Passiko” is a Pali phrase meaning come and see for yourself — or, don’t take my word for it, you must look into and investigate so you know for yourself.


Some modes of investigation:

  • go to/discover the root (causes and condition(s)
  • the origin(s)
  • who (all) is involved?
  • discover and examine any and all (core) intention(s)
  • what is the gratification
  • what is the danger
  • what the escape
  • who benefits?

Let’s revisit a bit of an older blog post as a type of Buddhic apophatic chisel to carve a bit deeper into Why and Why Not to Question/Inquire (reposted here):

  1. First and foremost obviously, zero harming
  2. Not for denigration; to invalidate and/or say something is being done wrong
  3. Not to challenge anyone’s knowledge
  4. Not to discredit anyone or anything
  5. Not to challenge authority
  6. Not to promote one viewpoint over another
  7. Not to upset the (surrounding) status quo and certainly not to divide
  8. Not to test
  9. Not for domination
  10. Not for control
  11. Not for distraction
  12. Not for delay
  13. Not to mislead or misguide
  14. Not to disrupt
  15. Not for uneasiness
  16. Not to enact any agendas, known, unknown, or otherwise (other than valid reasons to inquire/question)
  17. Not for grandstanding, gaining favor, merit, credit, or brownie points
  18. Not to impress
  19. Not to destroy
  20. Not to uphold
  21. Not to rebuild or reconstruct (from a place of loss or defeat)
  22. Not for any specific changes
  23. Not to prove who’s right and who’s wrong from a place of righteousness
  24. Not in order to prove one’s doubt
  25. Not for the requirement to receive an answer
  26. Not for any unskillful, unwise, unwholesome reasons associated with modern day schooling systems aka educational institutions
  27. Not to nitpick and get lost in the weeds
  28. Not to leave others behind
  29. Not to patronize and/or speak down to anybody
  30. Not to dumb down oneself for a better chance to be under/overstood
  31. Not to ask one thing but mean another
  32. Not to personally prove oneself
  33. Not to suggest preferences or desired outcomes without clearly stating them
  34. Not to ask because one can
  35. Not to be seen and/or heard (in order to be heard and/or seen)
  36. Not for mere curiosity

Ven. Sāriputta said: “All those who ask questions of another do so from any one of five motivations. Which five?

“One asks a question of another through stupidity & bewilderment. One asks a question of another through evil desires & overwhelmed with greed. One asks a question of another through contempt. One asks a question of another when desiring knowledge. Or one asks a question with this thought,1 ‘If, when asked, he answers correctly, well & good. If not, then I will answer correctly (for him).’

On Asking Questions
Pañhapucchā Sutta  (AN 5:165)

By name alone buddhistinquiry.org is a great include, not to mention the vast knowledge and resources there


Some inquiry techniques:

  • practice of sitting with a question by holding it in awareness in meditation/contemplation/reflection and then inquiring about what’s behind and underlying each answer
  • feeling into the truth of something
  • zen practice of being the koan question

Related audio using this post from the Insight Timer Live event: ‘Ask Anyone Anything? Live With Whom? Minor “Ask Us Anything” Restart?
More on this past event at: https://integratingpresence.com/2022/04/26/ask-anyone-anything-live-with-whom-minor-ask-us-anything-restart/

Lastly and somewhat related is the text of my twitter thread commenting on the Sounds True: Insights at the Edge episode “A.H. Almaas: Presence: The Elixir of Enlightenment” who teaches a form of inquiry called the Diamond Approach:

1/ Fifth Awareness of the Buddha not mentioned? The other four are:

  1. Unity of emptiness and presence
  2. Unity of emptiness and space
  3. Unity of emptiness and awareness
  4. Unity of emptiness and passion

Almaas’s definition of self and its relation to anattā/not-self? How’s the elixir jibe with emptiness?


2/ Is there Neurolinguistic Programing (NLP) within Almaas’s material beyond circular, psychological logic when addressing non-dualism?

3/ There is potential in this interview for easy conflation between concepts due to repetition of (interchangeable) concepts in similar ways with (only) slightly significant differences that at times seem inconsistent.

4/ He lays out corresponding adjectives and concepts independently then also mixes and matches them in various ways. And by referring to “it” after several clustered terms it’s a challenge to know what “it” then references.

5/ A transcript may be helpful (because the audio conveys a type of mumble-blurring of words) as well as written definitions for (many appended) terms like nature; true nature; self; consciousness; individual(izing) consciousness; presence; fundamental presence; ….

6/ . . . knowing; spiritual knowing; texture of knowing; being; texture of being; soul; and person. I still want somebody to show me their person because I’ve never seen mine.

Questions: Could delineating between relative and absolute levels be helpful?

7/ While it is known to be rare is Almaas saying non-physical beings have zero chance of enlightenment? Isn’t there a sort of body, sense organs, and capacity of knowing and discrimination for some #nonhumans?

8/ If consciousness is pure how can and does consciousness express itself with the perception of defilement? Doesn’t consciousness and presence change? What about clinging to consciousness?

9/ Why couldn’t (a) soul change? Why use the analogy of an organism since an organism changes? How do some of these concepts relate to jhana absorption? Is mastery possible with never ending learning? How can there be a true, complete human being when possibilities are endless?

10/ Most of these questions seek to clarify his teachings because without such innerstanding initiating a more general inquiry is unskillful.

Practice-In-Place Roundtable | (10/26/2021 — “Ask Us Anything – LIVE” With Denny K Miu And Guests Lydia Grace and Joanne Muir)

For this month’s regular open-audience, open-discussion “Ask Us Anything” — continuing discussions about meditation and related topics — Denny and I hosted a open roundtable on “Practice-in-place” with fellow Insight Timer teacher Lydia Grace and Joanne Muir. The term “Practice-in-place” comes as a wise meditative response to “Shelter-in-place” induced by reactions to Co-V.

Lydia Grace

Amongst discussion about now using more technology in our practices and sessions we also get into, not necessarily in this order:


Lydia’s Insight Timer circle Embodied Living

Some of my original notes not mentioned:

  • wake up call for me as I’m taking on more and more computer time. I turn off cell phone as much as possible and use a wired internet connection to help stay more embodied and not get lost in a wireless virtual reality of screens and have minimized dependence on two-factor authentication and apps with functionality exclusive to their mobile app
  • importance of supporting both those formally practicing in real life and those who “practice-in-place”
  • spirit rock retreat center looks like it is reopening next year
  • my online 1/2 day retreats with beth upton and ajahn succito’s online retreat love as the breath of life
  • real life opportunities via dharmagates.org:

In-Person Retreats:

Hermitage & Self-Retreat Opportunities:

Note: self-retreat opportunities are generally only recommended to those who have an established relationship with a Buddhist lineage and teacher, and for those who have done extensive meditation practice


Audio: Practice-In-Place Roundtable | (10/26/2021 — “Ask Us Anything – LIVE” With Denny K Miu And Guests Lydia Grace and Joanne Muir)

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Join Denny live Saturdays online for Yi Jin Jing and mindful joint, stretching, breathing, and qi exercises at 8:00am Pacific via:


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Wisdom Snippets: Some Of What The Four Protective Meditations Deter

This is a slightly edited extract from the notes for the now published post Studying And Practicing With “The Iddhipāda-Vibhaṅga Sutta — An Analysis Of The Bases Of Power”: Summary, Findings, Observations And Comparisons (7 of 7):

Perhaps the four protective meditations on foulness, death, loving-kindness and the Buddha are helpful to address non-benevolent powerful forces not so keen on the rise in power of those whom align with more benevolent intents.

Meditation on death could perhaps deter those who threaten with death to invoke (and feed on the subsequent) fear. Death meditation could also deter those who would like to keep on and on with tactic after tactic to block progress with the faulty reasoning that one’s current existence is eternal so what’s the big deal with messing around with someone if doing so is only a blip in the grand scheme of things.

Loving-kindness can protect against mischievous beings only crying out for kindness (and not really realizing it); for those who still have a conscience but have temporarily forgotten it; and towards those who seek to provoke anger, violence, ill-will and retaliation (as fuel).

Meditation on death and loving-kindness may protect against any harmful actions of nihilists since they resonate with death and the energy of loving-kindness may be a reprieve from their bleakness.

And of course meditation on the Buddha — and the true awareness represented thereby — appeals as a deterrent for more seemingly middle of the road, non-benevolent forces, especially those who seek to connive using (false) knowledge, deception, distractions, deterrents, tricks, foolery, games, etc.

Finally meditation on foulness can deter (those forces appealing to) lust, seduction and misuse of sexual energy.

Recollection of the Buddha’s qualities (buddhanussati bhavana) can be practised to overcome the lack of interest and boredom during meditation which will also bring a sense of respect and confidence (saddha) in the Buddha and inspire the meditator to continue meditating with joy and gladness. Loving kindness meditation (metta bhavana) can be the antidote to feelings such as resentment, anger, ill-will and hatred which can appear as a mental hindrance (vyapada) and negatively affect one’s meditation. When the meditator’s mind is overcome by sensual desire (kamacchanda) and lust negatively affecting the process of meditation, contemplation of the unattractive nature of the body (asubha bhavana) would be the protective meditation of choice. Finally, recollection of death (marananussati bhavana) can be practised as the powerful antidote to laziness, lethargy and lack of motivation while creating a sense of heedfulness, urgency, motivation and energy in the meditator to continue with the meditation.

https://drarisworld.wordpress.com/2018/12/01/four-protective-meditations-caturarakkha-bhavana-in-theravada-buddhism/

I also wonder if being energetically or psychically attacked if one is able to meditate on nibbana (or other high level thought forms, intents, wishes, resolves, etc.) for the last mind moment if this will deter attack


An Integrating Presence Full Moon Meditative Experience At Fat Cat Longevity October 20, 2021

[11/3/21 UPDATE: Pro audio edit noise removal versions now available]

When opening to this month’s regular meditation at Fat Cat Longevity I quickly realized I’m often not as enthusiastic about significant moon days as other meditators and practitioners seem to be. May this be to our advantage though and stoke beneficial, balancing momentum for this first facilitation of a guided full moon sitting with the intentions to set aside distortions and point in the directions of well-being, true knowledge and realizing awakening.

Focusing primarily on the body in order to experience the full moon in potentially nuanced ways, I guided participants through various observations, inquiries, connections, remembrances, energies, considerations and perhaps even imaginations and visualizations while in states of meditation, contemplation and reflection.

For about a half an hour we touched on:

  • reflection on symbolism, information and ideas we have about the moon and the ideas, symbolism and information of others about the moon. What is our relationship to this?
  • Can we temporarily put most or all this aside and tune into the body? And while we’ll use other methods, can we intend to use the body as the primary way to perhaps experience the moon in ways we haven’t yet?
  • if too much, can easily disengage, let the words wash over and come back to the breath
  • feelings: emotions, moods, and nervous systems in self and others — feel these in the body
  • water element: tides, ocean waves and movements, rhythm of breath
  • 3-way comparison from memory: immerse in memories of deeply connected to earth, sun, moon . . . contemplate and reflect moon being exact distance between earth and sun to cause
  • energy: frequency, vibration, radiation = notice which is now most predominate with moon
  • deep remembering: connect and tune in to ancient memories, knowledge and observations of this moon we know now (and perhaps other moons). Note what arises. Now feel into the truth of anything that arose. What now feels more authentic and less authentic?
  • contemplation: how would life be without this moon, with no moon, with a different moon
  • contemplation and imagination: if the moon had a heart, what would it be like? feel into the heart of the moon? what does this moon heart need? use this to recall connection with communities we’re apart of, and recalling moments from the past that make relationships worthwhile, or resolving for change, or both; and perhaps plans to strengthen relationships especially to one’s self
  • reflection and consideration: using the body, what might be helpful, and what might not be helpful from this evening’s exploration for our wellbeing and realizing being free? And consider HOW might this be, without any need to know exactly, or even know at all right now
  • classic equanimity image of full moon on still water; notice if the image is still, if not, intend for this without attaching to outcome
  • metta for all beings everywhere

Audio: An (Evergreen) Integrating Presence Full Moon Meditative Experience — Recorded live at Fat Cat Longevity 10/20/2021
[11/3/21 UPDATE: Replaced audio with professional noise removal edit]

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Mary’s House of Healing
524 South Main Street
Downstairs at Fat Cat Longevity next to Peace Love Coffee…
St. Charles, MO 63301

October 20th 2021 — 6:00pm – 6:45pm

Doors open: 5:50pm — Doors close: 6:05pm

Cost: Fat Cat Longevity price packagesmonthly membership or generosity inspired donation



Conscious Pregnancies With Kristy Geltz

Friend and mother Kristy Geltz shares her knowledge, wisdom and experiences with pregnancy, giving birth and mothering.

(While still listenable just know we recorded on Kristy’s porch with nearby construction vehicles beeping and the main recording didn’t take so using the lesser quality Wisdom App live recording.) Topics include:

  • Kristy’s bio and background
  • trusting intuition when pregnant
  • (morning) sickness
  • weird cravings
  • home births
  • water births
  • midwives and birth doulas
  • husband’s roles
  • elements of safety, comfort and control in childbirth
  • rebirthing
  • birth trauma
  • skin to skin contact
  • umbilical cord and placenta options
  • post partum depression
  • wearing Sea Bands for nausea
  • chiropractic care while pregnant for fetus positioning
  • cranial sacral therapy for infants
  • breast feeding
  • animal totems for motherhood and fertility
  • parallels of pregnancy and parasitism (I parrot this concept that originates from (metaphysical) remembering and experiencing and I didn’t mention that it’s said we once were able to incarnate without a womb birth)
  • extra challenges of women leadership combined with motherhood
  • needs and wants are the same in small children
  • close bonding stage of mother and child
  • mutual support in childbirth, parenting and throughout all of life
Audio: Conscious Pregnancies With Kristy Geltz

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https://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2025/03/07/hidden-dangers-of-hospital-births.aspx

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Wisdom Snippets: The Murkiness, Blocks And Obstructions Of Past Life Discernment

During the resolve to not get up from under a Bodhi tree until realizing full awakening, the Buddha recalled previous lives. How did he, and how can we tell what is really and truly an authentic past life? There are scientific studies of past lives, but what follows is about what could be mistaken for past lives, and some of them are pretty far out, perhaps boarding on science fiction for some:

  • mistaking for dream(s)
  • racial, group or collective memories
  • forgotten media consumption
  • imagination
  • hypnotic(-like) suggestions
  • influencing past life memories by wanting to have certain types of past lives
  • mistaking memories of someone who you really admired, or despised, or even a captivating popular figure in a past life as oneself
  • mixing (portions of) anything mentioned here (with partial past life memories)
  • various technological means and methods known and unknown
  • (temporarily) taken over by an entity or spirit and experiencing their memories
  • false memories
  • memory insertions
  • memory distortions
  • parallel timelines and realities
  • relooped timeline(s) with slight alterations
  • (those from “your”) clones, duplicates, replicates
  • ai (or other beings or other technology) with copies of real past lives when detecting the start of a past life recall then splice in an edited version, or something like a deep fake (which could then act as a red herring to seed in higher probabilities for future distorted past life remembrances)
  • What if so connected or entangled in a past life with someone that discerning who was who — individually and both of each other’s memories (and maybe past life recalls at the time) — became difficult?
  • That entertaining any of the above can keep you from discerning past lives(?)

Bonus: a perhaps somewhat related, very short story The Egg by Andy Weir

Ideas on how to address:

[Note: Purely intuitive speculation and for experimentation as this has yet to be put into practice]

What are the major perceptional altering shifts in general and amongst the individual memories in/for each past life? Where and how does the reality seem to significantly and unmistakably change? The big ones might seem to be birth and death; perceived losses of innocence; and anywhere/anything where intense energy is involved. What are the consistencies for all these? What sticks out as incongruent? How does perception itself operate as far as mechanics, fluctuations, (in)stabilities, and the degree(s) of all this over various timespans?


Brief Guided Meditation: Discernment of Meditation Object

Very brief instruction, technique and practice period to help discern when attention is on or off the meditation object. Practice this solo, without external guidance.

Experiment — if need be — by altering, adjusting, and adding just enough so it works best for you.

Stick with this training wheels technique at least for a few meditation sessions with the intent to let go of it after it strengthens and deepens formal mindfulness practice.

Brief Guided Meditation: Discernment of Meditation Object

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