Dharmic Strategies For Empaths

. . . when you yourselves know: ‘These things are good; these things are not blamable; these things are praised by the wise; undertaken and observed, these things lead to benefit and happiness,’ enter on and abide in them.

Kalama Sutta: The Buddha’s Charter of Free Inquiry (translated by Soma Thera)

While there now exists an entirely new (spiritual) paradigm for empaths, or energetically sensitive beings, (some of which my version of is included herewithin,) can anything be drawn from the Early Buddhist Texts as strategies for those where the characteristic of anukampa, or empathy, significantly impacts their day to day experience?

Empathy in the context of this article means deeply feeling what another is feeling. Experiencing what another is experiencing — at the least, experiencing the most predominate experience(s) of another — to the point where, temporarily, very little difference seemingly exists between the one empathing and what, or who is being empathed. The caveat being there is really no way to know exactly the entirety of another’s experience. Additionally, there often seems to be very little choice involved whether or not to empath.

This is all lovely and wonderful if only the positive and pleasant was all that was being empathed. So naturally, this article mostly addresses what’s being empathed and perceived as negative, unhelpful, unskillful, unwise and unwholesome without intending to attract more nor push it away.

Perhaps a (still somewhat broad) guiding question to further narrow this enquiry: How can we aim towards the highest, fullest, most total, and most complete currently accessible versions of the wisest, most wholesome, skillful, ideal and optimal perceptions, views and responses for empathic experiences and phenomena? (And perhaps eventually going and incorporating beyond even this?)

And without paving another way to be down on ourselves for falling short of what’s mentioned, all this also intends to provide options to cultivate and develop greater balanced empathy while ending (programmed) victim/victimizer mentality.

But first some background and context questions.

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Breath: Questions for Contemplation; Perceptions and Practice Ideas

After jotting down intuitive information and collecting odds and ends of teachings on breath for quite some time, I’ve finally compiled the first part into a video (along with an MP3 audio version) and include a (tran)script below:

Breath: Questions for Contemplation; Perceptions and Practice Ideas MP3 audio version [MP3 file download]

Disclaimer: it may be wise to find a balance with this material for whatever it may bring up: intrigue, fear, relief, breakthrough, novelty, overwhelm, overkill, irrelevancy, etc. One can pause the video at anytime for contemplation. 

Or instead of viewing as study and practice instructions just sit back and take this in as a display of possibilities — letting the material resonate with whatever strikes as vital. 

However you’re called to receive this presentation please take what is skillful, wise and useful/helpful and leave the rest. Also, this presentation could easily become outdated and/or refuted. 

For any questions posed in the material it is encouraged to engage each question the following four ways, both internally to yourself, and to me with any counter-questions for both of our benefit:

  • answer directly
  • answer with analysis (and elaboration after deconstructing)
  • answer by counter-question(s)
  • do not answer, or give no response

In addition to this public presentation the private portion may be given if working with me, or may be released later. Much of what’s public is aggregated from other public sources while the private includes material I’m unsure of what portion is public and what portion is not.

Both the public and private presentations primarily address the breath through approaches, observations, conjecture, perceptions, practice ideas, and inquiries ranging from simple, commonplace, practical, and broad overviews to the bizarre, obscure, esoteric, and minutia while sometimes these categories overlap.

Overall, a basic bare awareness of breath is primarily needed. Again, this presentation is not to overwhelm, for overthinking, for comparison, or judgement. Rather, to enhance the likelihood of maintaining and/or prolonging bare awareness of breath for/during breath practices.

Questions for Contemplation

  • What if this was the first time noticing breath? 
  • What is more important than breath in this moment?
  • What effects are the breath having right now (on any and all levels you have access to inside and outside)?
  • How is your relationship with your breath in this moment?
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An Integrating Presence Full Moon Meditative Experience At Fat Cat Longevity Wednesday October 20, 2021

When opening to this month’s regular meditation at Fat Cat Longevity I quickly realized I’m often not as enthusiastic about significant moon days as other meditators and practitioners seem to be. May this be to our advantage though and stoke beneficial, balancing momentum for facilitating my first full moon sitting with the intentions to set aside distortions and point in the directions of well-being, true knowledge and realizing awakening.

Focusing primarily on the body in order to experience this full moon in potentially nuanced ways I’ll guide participants through various observations, inquiries, connections, remembrances, energies, considerations and perhaps even imaginations and visualizations while in states of meditation, contemplation and reflection.

After the bell rings at the end I’ll then repeat these for review and for anyone who would like to share and ask questions. There’s also the option to re-listen and/or refer to notes once they’re posted after the event.

So I invite you to join this full moon experience from 6:00pm to 6:45pm, Wednesday, October 20th at Fat Cat Longevity [https://facebook.com/freyflow] downstairs next to Peace Love Coffee at Mary’s House of Healing, on Main St in St Charles, MO.


Mary’s House of Healing
524 South Main Street
Downstairs at Fat Cat Longevity next to Peace Love Coffee…
St. Charles, MO 63301

October 20th 2021 — 6:00pm – 6:45pm

Doors open: 5:50pm — Doors close: 6:05pm

Cost: Fat Cat Longevity price packagesmonthly membership or generosity inspired donation

Podcast: Conscious Pregnancies With Kristy Geltz

Friend and mother Kristy Geltz shares her knowledge, wisdom and experiences with pregnancy, giving birth and mothering.

Audio: Conscious Pregnancies With Kristy Geltz

(While still listenable just know we recorded on Kristy’s porch with nearby construction vehicles beeping and the main recording didn’t take so using the lesser quality Wisdom App live recording.) Topics include:

  • Kristy’s bio and background
  • trusting intuition when pregnant
  • (morning) sickness
  • weird cravings
  • home births
  • water births
  • midwives and birth doulas
  • husband’s roles
  • elements of safety, comfort and control in childbirth
  • rebirthing
  • birth trauma
  • skin to skin contact
  • umbilical cord and placenta options
  • post partum depression
  • wearing Sea Bands for nausea
  • chiropractic care while pregnant for fetus positioning
  • cranial sacral therapy for infants
  • breast feeding
  • animal totems for motherhood and fertility
  • parallels of pregnancy and parasitism (I parrot this concept that originates from (metaphysical) remembering and experiencing and I didn’t mention that it’s said we once were able to incarnate without a womb birth)
  • extra challenges of women leadership combined with motherhood
  • needs and wants are the same in small children
  • close bonding stage of mother and child
  • mutual support in childbirth, parenting and throughout all of life

Wisdom Snippets: The Murkiness, Blocks And Obstructions Of Past Life Discernment

During the resolve to not get up from under a Bodhi tree until realizing full awakening, the Buddha recalled previous lives. How did he, and how can we tell what is really and truly an authentic past life? What follows could be mistaken for past lives, and some of them are pretty far out, perhaps boarding on science fiction for some:

  • mistaking for dream(s)
  • racial, group or collective memories
  • forgotten media consumption
  • imagination
  • hypnotic(-like) suggestions
  • influencing past life memories by wanting to have certain types of past lives
  • mistaking memories of someone who you really admired, or despised, or even a captivating popular figure in a past life as oneself
  • mixing (portions of) anything mentioned here (with partial past life memories)
  • various technological means and methods known and unknown
  • (temporarily) taken over by an entity or spirit and experiencing their memories
  • false memories
  • memory insertions
  • memory distortions
  • parallel timelines and realities
  • relooped timeline(s) with slight alterations
  • (those from “your”) clones, duplicates, replicates
  • ai (or other beings or other technology) with copies of real past lives when detecting the start of a past life recall then splice in an edited version, or something like a deep fake (which could then act as a red herring to seed in higher probabilities for future distorted past life remembrances)
  • What if so connected or entangled in a past life with someone that discerning who was who — individually and both of each other’s memories (and maybe past life recalls at the time) — became difficult?
  • That entertaining any of the above can keep you from discerning past lives(?)

Bonus: a perhaps somewhat related, very short story The Egg by Andy Weir

Brief Guided Meditation: Discernment of Meditation Object

Brief Guided Meditation: Discernment of Meditation Object

Very brief instruction, technique and practice period to help discern when attention is on or off the meditation object. Practice this solo, without external guidance.

Experiment — if need be — by altering, adjusting, and adding just enough so it works best for you.

Stick with this training wheels technique at least for a few meditation sessions with the intent to let go of it after it strengthens and deepens formal mindfulness practice.

Podcast: Shawn White’s State Of The Massage Industry

Immediately relevant to the extensive linked list of Healing Modalities and Resources on IntegratingPresence.com I sit down with Shelly and Shawn White who, amongst many things, is a cancer conqueror, massage therapist, entrepreneur and spa founder/owner based in the greater St Louis, Missouri area.

Audio Only: Shawn White’s State Of The Massage Industry

We mostly discuss the ups and downs of the massage and spa industry and Shawn’s methodology for transforming it. Amongst other topics we also touch on entrepreneurship, elevation and service to others. Detailed show notes as follows:

  • Shawn’s vivid massage school experiences including:
    • initial spark of interest
    • interest in body mechanics aspect of massage
    • physical environment of massage school
    • teachers, students, foibles and politics
    • styles and methods of teaching and learning
    • testing standards
    • learning massage in the midst of a cancer journey
    • unlearning, restoring intuition and self-training
    • licensing requirements, pass rates, provisional licensing, wash out, lack of history, dropouts, burnouts, retention rates, culture
  • Entrepreneurship:
    • mentorship
    • experience
    • challenges including:
    • opening to criticism
    • transformation
    • resilience
    • serving
    • switching from business mode to excelling at client experience mode with dedication and giving 100%
  • Reform and solutions:
    • More quality, less quantity of therapists
    • Supercharged dedication to serving others
    • Intending to provide best massage experience of one’s life every time
    • Certainty about one’s degree of client effectiveness upon review
    • Humility to prevent god complex
    • Empathy as tool to attune and adjust massage and keep intuition in check
    • Creativity helps customize and tailor to momentary needs while adding variety with creative passion
  • Inspiration, Encouragement, Empowerment and Elevation at the brink of death
  • Turning hardships, darkness and horror into gifts and opportunities to help others
  • False hope vs. true hope
  • Role models
  • Leaving the world better than we found it
  • Excitement, intensity, passion, authenticity
  • Transforming industry by:
    • starting own spa
    • creating opportunities to pursue dreams
    • professionalism
    • emphasis on education
    • creating own massage school founded on humility, empathy, creativity and purity
    • mentorship
    • sharing techniques
    • preventing hardship by sharing wisdom gained from hardships
    • time as most valuable asset
    • proactive regret prevention
  • How being a facilitator and tool overwrites identifying as a healer

Be that person who remains an ally to the innocence in every heart with the intuitive discernment to know how to hold space for the healing of others without being a place for anyone’s unprocessed pain to hide.

Matt Kahn 10/10/21 newsletter

Wisdom Snippets: Co-opting Co-V For Concord

Currently the wisest perceptions surrounding the CV thing encountered thus far:

  • Honoring and respecting each and every free health care choice
  • What is your intent for vaccination or non-vaccination?
  • We do not know the long terms effects of getting vaccinated and not getting vaccinated
  • Should guidelines, vaccines and pharmaceutical products be the only options? How can we make it all work together without tyranny or carelessness?
Many worthwhile points about fear — at least on the surface level of this video — which is what I’ve called for the most care for since near the beginning

An Integrating Presence (Three Minute) Meditation And Reality (Characteristics) Contemplation

An Integrating Presence Three Minute Meditation And Reality (Characteristics) Contemplation


Meditate continuously for three minutes on an object


Able to keep attention on the object the entire time?

If not, why is that?

If yes, did the quality and degree of attention change?

Why can’t we lock a consistent, unchanging attention to something without it wavering, or changing, or without distraction?

Perhaps then consider that in life, and especially noticeable in meditation, we sometimes think we should able to keep a consistent, unchanging attention to something. Maybe we can now better see how this erroneous view of deceptively defaulting to expecting constancies in life can result in stress and unsatisfactoriness

Caregiving Roundtable: Caring For The Givers | (9/28/2021 — “Ask Us Anything – LIVE” With Denny K Miu)

For this month’s regular open-audience, open-discussion “Ask Us Anything” — continuing discussions about meditation and related topics — Denny and I talk about caring for caregivers. Topics, not necessarily in order, include:

  • The Four Brahmaviharas, translated as The Four Immeasurables, Divine Abodes, or Sublime Abidings
  • Compassion fatigue
  • Denny’s caregiving journey with his father diagnosed with dementia
  • My experiences with my late grandmother and dementia
  • Pain vs Suffering
  • Survival instinct and survival programming
  • Spiritual practice as care for caregivers
  • “Buddhism” as misrepresentative Western term
  • Dhamma
  • Mindfulness and how it’s like holding the hand of a child while crossing the street
  • Four Noble Truths
  • Five Hinderances
  • Death as one of the Five Daily Reflections

Integrating Presence’s long linked list of Healing Modalities and Resources

Other related resources:

Corona-19, Hypertension And Qi | (2/23/2021 — “Ask Us Anything – LIVE” With Denny K Miu)

An Integrating Presence Meditation: Breathing 9 Beneficial Energies Into Embodiment

McMindfulness and The Mindfulness Industrial Complex | (12/29/2020 — “Ask Us Anything” With Denny K Miu)

Audio only version — Caregiving Roundtable: Caring For The Givers | (9/28/2021 — “Ask Us Anything – LIVE” With Denny K Miu)

Join “Ask Us Anything LIVE” next month, October 26, 2021 at our new time of 4pm Central via:

Join Denny live (with me sometimes commenting post-practice) Saturdays online for Yi Jin Jing and mindful joint, stretching, breathing, and qi exercises at 8:00am and 6:00pm Pacific via:

Full list of links at DennyKMiu.com