Friend and mother Kristy Geltz shares her knowledge, wisdom and experiences with pregnancy, giving birth and mothering.
(While still listenable just know we recorded on Kristy’s porch with nearby construction vehicles beeping and the main recording didn’t take so using the lesser quality Wisdom App live recording.) Topics include:
- Kristy’s bio and background
- trusting intuition when pregnant
- (morning) sickness
- weird cravings
- home births
- water births
- midwives and birth doulas
- husband’s roles
- elements of safety, comfort and control in childbirth
- rebirthing
- birth trauma
- skin to skin contact
- umbilical cord and placenta options
- post partum depression
- wearing Sea Bands for nausea
- chiropractic care while pregnant for fetus positioning
- cranial sacral therapy for infants
- breast feeding
- animal totems for motherhood and fertility
- parallels of pregnancy and parasitism (I parrot this concept that originates from (metaphysical) remembering and experiencing and I didn’t mention that it’s said we once were able to incarnate without a womb birth)
- extra challenges of women leadership combined with motherhood
- needs and wants are the same in small children
- close bonding stage of mother and child
- mutual support in childbirth, parenting and throughout all of life
Audio: Conscious Pregnancies With Kristy Geltz
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this is josh nipple from integrating presence and today i have with me uh guest christy geltz christy is a
good friend of mine along with her husband robbie i originally approached her on a
topic that we’re not going to do today but christy came back with another topic
today and it’s about conscious pregnancies of course that goes along
with births and expecting mothers and fathers obviously when she came back with that topic i was wary at first
still a little bit too because you know i’m single and childless and you heard me right ladies single
yeah single maybe this is too much too much information but for me you know it was
never really a thing that i was that i wanted or didn’t want it was kind of dependent on
circumstances and partners so yeah definitely not for or against so i
thought this would be totally out of my comfort zone talking about something like this so i i jumped
on the chance to do this because when i can get out of my comfort zone that’s how i learn and grow so with that
said christy how’s it going i’m good i’m going to sit back in the chair a
little bit here and if you want to um just tell people you know who you are
maybe a brief bio okay um so my background i grew up in the st louis
area went to school in rolla missouri for engineering did chemical engineering
very much in the science engineering side of
life that all interested me and then after i graduated i worked a lot in the oil and gas industry
for various companies and then um went through a really big breakup
actually which kind of got me thinking more about the spiritual side of things and kind of
catapulted my journey inward then continued working in the um
as in engineering until my son was born and then when he was born it was too
hard to watch someone else care for him so i i was convinced i was gonna go back to
work but it was just too hard to do so then quit my job and became a stay-at-home mom and
have had a daughter since then so i have two kids and now i’m um their primary
caregiver i also do commercial well i do renovations with my
husbands he’s in commercial real estate so we do property management and that sort of stuff as our income oh cool
so i guess how do we dip our toes in this topic of conscious
pregnancies you know because well i mean it’s been a topic since time in memorial right about planned
pregnancies unplanned pregnancies conscious pregnancies i mean it can go deep into the spiritual aspects of this
and as a little uh foreshadowing maybe towards the end i’ll i’ll share something you know maybe
more on the metaphysical end that that i recently learned about that’s kind of controversial surrounding this but let’s
talk about just everyday life where we’re at now in the current day and age
and what maybe was to start with what what is one of the biggest things
that would maybe about what would constitute a conscious pregnancy and unconscious pregnancy uh
maybe that whole spectrum even yeah and then i even kind of questioned using the word conscious um the the title because
i’m not you know how conscious is it really but to me i felt where i went from what i felt from
unconscious to conscious was when i was really following my own tuition and recognizing the
basically just intuitive knowledge and power that flows through the mother from pregnancy through the birth there’s
um compared to like my daily life when you’re pregnant there’s so much more
happening so it’s much harder to ignore your intuition even you take it
like basic food cravings so like women who are pregnant um you know you hear about it all the time they want to eat
things certain things and other things are you know make them actually throw up so um it’s your body’s talking to you you
have a lot of gut feelings um you know it’s just this huge like
purge almost too with like the morning sickness and um all the hormonal changes and if you’re
not respecting your body um respecting those messages it can make the process very
difficult and so i really struggled with that with my son um
there was a lot of squirrel just fell out of the tree
there was uh i was really resisting so i’m working my job thinking you know um
probably not letting the divine feminine take over very much go go and it’s like wait i need to like take a nap in the
middle of the day i’m working you know i have this job how am i supposed to go and like take a nap in the middle of the
day um and i was sick so most women or some women have morning sickness for
like the first three months well i was sick the entire nine months with my son so it was again that like
um eventually i got to a point where i did honor it where it’s like okay i’m just going to take a nap i’m going to put my away sign on my
you know profile and then i’m just going to take a nap and that’s going to be that
so yeah i think to summarize i think it’s just you know following your intuition and giving yourself what you
need and for guys you hear this thing about sympathy weight right
so they will put on extra weight as yeah sympathy weight during pregnancy
and i can see that being like just with the women’s cravings i remember there was a phase where i was like obsessed
with chicken wings and so we were going to buffalo wildlings like all the time i wanted to eat there all
the time which my husband was like oh this is awesome um and we would eat there like constantly
and then one day i went there and i’m like i’m done with it and then i don’t like it was like years since we went back but it’s just you know the the
phases the cravings i hear like they just yeah they get these weird cravings
out of the blue that they wouldn’t normally eat things too yeah even even weirder stuff than that too but yeah
yeah so so what about um birth options and all the different
options for um you know obviously most people are familiar with having a birth in the hospital and maybe the um
what is it the gone with the wind saying my aunt always says we don’t know nothing about birth and no babies
so but then you hear about birth doulas and underwater births and
you know um what are the uh midwife midwifery and all this stuff
gets very complex or can be i guess with walls and rules and regulations and
backup plans and all this stuff so if you want to share some of your experience and knowledge with that yeah
so i’ll just give the high level what i did for both my children we did home births
which is a very small percentage of women in the u.s do that but i did a home birth with a midwife there were
actually a few midwives there and a doula so and it was in water so i did a water
birth i had a blow up tub in the bedroom but so that was what i did um
how i got there was um so when i was still in chicago
working i was researching this a lot and there are some documentaries out there i won’t
name the one that’s most famous but it’s very controvers or controversial brings forward a lot of
information about drugs that are given to mothers especially in the birth process and
different procedures that can be performed whether you’re um you know aware of it or not and thinking this
might be all just horror stories but i was aware that i’m very concerned with
that kind of stuff so i started my first thing i looked for was a midwife and
there are a lot of more and more practices are now they’re having the doctor and then they also have a midwife
but when i went the place i went to um we had moved to st louis well actually
before that i had a miscarriage um in chicago which for me i took that as a sign
for me to evaluate my life and where it was going because i considered miscarriage having to do with the second
chakra this is just my experience for me and i looked at where my life was going
what i was creating and i was then feeling the call to move to st louis but
i had not done that just you know resisting um but after the miscarriage and i said okay we’re moving to st louis
and it all worked out beautifully we got to keep our jobs work remotely so when we get to st louis i look for
midwives and there’s actually this really great facility in the area in o’fallon missouri where
it’s a group of midwives they it’s a birth center so it’s separate from a hospital some hospitals have birth
centers attached but this was a standalone facility and they also offered home births assuming
you meet certain criteria health-wise and you know with the pregnancy it’s going
as planned so i was really excited i was so nervous i remember going in there just feeling so nervous because this is
going to be the spot and then once i got in i just felt like this calm come over me i felt like i was at the right place
and just working with the midwife you know you go into the office and there’s like couches it’s very just very cozy
it’s not like sterile it’s um i just felt really good there and then working with the midwife they
gave me just so much information on like doulas and i remember with the doula it was like well
um do i really mean one i’m not sure but that’s one thing like i’m so glad i did
it because for me i don’t i know that word i don’t actually know what it means so if you would just tell me or just
briefly what a doula is yeah so and a midwife too so midwife i mean they do go to school
um they are you know trained um and the so they do have like a license to
you know be to facilitate births and do other women um healthcare
so that’s midwife a doulas i’m not sure what certification is necessary um but it’s more i would say
to me she was like my helper so she was always by my side if i was um
wanting anything she would be there but also the doula i feel at least when i use because i mean
she’s they attend so many births so like they get the hang of it um she was really good at just knowing what
my body needed like in certain movements where she’d push on my hips when i was like having contractions and like we go
to i remember going to uh we’d go to all these classes you know me and robbie were going all these classes to learn
and what’s the husband’s role and i think i had this uh fantasy about him being so like you
know he’s going to be my great helper and in the moment he’s going to know exactly what to do and was learning how to push on my hips and
do all this kind of stuff but in the moment like i remember when uh the doula did it for the first time and she pushed
on my hips and it was like she was pushing so hard like there’s no way robbie would have known like how to do
it and when to do it and at what force but like she did it perfectly so um
and when we were doing the home birth like there was just so much so many things pulling robbie like well we got to get filling up the tub we need more
towels we need this and so robbie’s out running around doing all that stuff taking care of people and so she was
just by my side giving me the support i needed um so that was uh yeah to answer your
question i guess very cool okay so so i guess looping back to where before
i broke in there um but i guess we covered pretty much of it right i mean that was uh so home birth
yeah that’s it’s um i guess what
what do you think turns more women off to to that idea in the mainstream and then
what is kind of the appeal you mentioned a lot of the appeal but why don’t you think it has more mainstream appeal
other than kind of the obvious actually actually can state the obvious too so yeah um so
and when i was telling people i was doing a home birth you know i got to meet all the resistance there i think
that a lot of people feel it’s not safe there are there’s also um you know maybe some
doctors may think it’s not safe that birth is not a natural process and maybe it needs to be
um monitored and i’m not against you know any of that stuff and i feel like it’s every woman needs to choose what they
want and the most important thing which again is following your intuition i read that the safest and
fastest births are those when the mother feels in control so if the mother is
going to feel in control at a hospital on a hospital bed then you go for it like go do that go be safe go be where
you need to be for me i felt the most and the control part was the biggest thing for me because i wanted control
over like i want my baby on me i want to see like i want to i don’t want an iv in
my arm i don’t i want to be in control like so i felt where am i going to be most in control and that’s going to be
in my house um the other thing i noticed i had to clear in my family and i feel that women um
some women carry this that um women not being able to do it just not
being so when i decided to do a home birth and i told my mother and my mother’s mom found out my grandmother
they were actually the two that were most resistant they kept calling me telling me like what if your baby dies
what if the cords around the neck what if all this stuff there was just so much fear
um they were awesome are you sure you’re going to be able to do this and i’m like these women have had babies
before but it’s just this mindset of a woman not being strong enough and not being capable
to birth a baby which is what we’re made for so for me personally
i knew i had to do it because of just the karma i feel i was healing from my
maternal line um i think there’s when i was mentioning it to other people
i met one person who said like oh i’d love to do it but i’m not sure if i’m brave enough um so there’s just a lot i
think with going back to you know checking in with yourself but again
being mindful of where you feel the safest and where you feel most in control because that’s likely the best
option for you this is interesting because there’s so many other spiritual modalities around birth right there’s a
i’m not really familiar with this but i met a breathwork practitioner that does rebirthing breath work and i’m not
really familiar with that at all i know there can be um birth trauma a
lot of birth trauma you know for me this is the exact uh not the exact opposite but an opposite of when i was told about
my birth it was that i was a caesarean section and that my mom was in labor for i don’t
know how long and she was um you know
supposed to be born on christmas day i think but they’re like you’re not having a christmas baby and so it went and drug
on and on and on so finally i guess and then they i was just looking at my birth
receipt my parents kept that and supposedly they took me and did all kinds of lab tests and
they don’t know what they i mean how would i know what they’ve done what they did with me when i was born like that
you know i won’t go into kind of like maybe the spiritual trauma around that
as well but that’s a good point um that was one of my concerns because um i wanted it to
be where you know my baby wasn’t leaving my site and the most
the midwives i worked with were just really great at saying when the baby’s born you know they would even walk
through that so when the baby which and i did a water birth so um for expecting
moms out there if you can consider a water birth there is something really wonderful i had heard like a
water burst are great and like the water and i remember when i was started having my contractions i just got in the shower
and there really is something with water i remember both first i kept like yelling at my husband like is the tub
full yet um because i was just so ready to get in and when you get in it is just
like it’s not going to take away everything you’re still you know in the middle of birth but
there is just something really nice and calming about being in the water it also helps um
there’s less risk of tearing if you’re in the water so um just you know there’s benefits for doing it making it easier
and then they say it’s an easier transition so when the and some people say oh what if the baby’s going to drown
well the baby does not start breathing until like a few minutes after it’s born so if it’s borne into water they say
it’s a more easy transition for the child into this world going from the womb then into water warm water and then
then i would pick up the baby and then the baby goes on the mother’s chest and that’s where the baby stays
or you know they act the midwife said you should be skin-to-skin with your child for at least 24 hours which it’s
funny because then with my son i’m like following all the rules so okay they say 24 hours so i’m making sure i do at least 24 hours of him skin to skin with
me but with my daughter my second birth it was like i think we were like skin to skin for like three days like it just
felt right like i was just you know we’re yeah we’re both just like i mean naked and not naked completely but you
know she’s naked on me and it’s just there’s just something really um wonderful about that that
i think is natural for women to do it’s just where our initial thought is to do more like well
what’s normal and normals to be dressed with my child and you know you see pictures of newborns with all these
pretty little outfits on and stuff like that which nothing against newborn pictures um but there is something really special
about just putting your baby on you and wrapping up in a blanket and just staying there and sleeping like that and
we co-slept which is another controversial topic but just honoring that
you know informing that bond and it’s so beautiful like just the connection and even now i feel i
have that connection just with my children um
you know you they say that it’s good to sleep with your child because as you breathe out that your exhale the breath
on them triggers them to breathe so there’s that concern of the child stop breathing and they feel your heartbeat
and you feel their heartbeat and they say like your sinks your sleep cycles sync up and i feel it’s so true like
it’s almost like you feel you get in such a group where you feel like you fall asleep at the exact moment together and you wake up at the exact moment
together and your needs are it’s just it’s such a wonderful time for the mother and child to bond well it seems
like that’s it’s it’s well the first time should be with the kids always wanting to run in
with their parents anyway the kids that are the parents that don’t do that right they’re always wanting to go in there
anyway you know so instead of fighting that i mean maybe that’s if that would happen i
would think well maybe it’s time to to look to inquire why is that you know i
don’t really know one way or the other obviously because i don’t have children but niece and nephew you know i can give
them more of my attention now since um you know since they don’t require all of my time
but now did you um how long did you leave the umbilical cord attached because i hear that’s supposed to stay attached for a while i mean that’s what
some of the teachers i follow recommend so it actually stayed attached so i mean
they say if you’re that that’s another thing that can cause trauma if the baby comes out and you cut it because that’s
where they’re getting all their oxygen um everything so i mean you can wait until
i’m not sure how you know a few minutes or what like the medical procedure would say um
to do that but when i did my home birth um you know the baby came on me
umbilical cord still attached i’m in the water and then i the placenta was birthed and then then it was cut so i
mean the placenta is out of my body the baby it’s still attached to the baby but obviously it’s still not getting any
nutrients so that’s one way to be sure um and then another i don’t know controversial maybe not
mainstream would be uh eating your placenta i’ve heard this yeah yep so
i actually had mine i did not some people can eat it and fry it up or i don’t know
what they do with it they make it and then eat it i had mine encapsulated
so they i think they dry freeze it again when i was working with midwives they just had all these resources like
oh well if you want to do this with your placenta here you go and so i had it and
honestly it was like that’s the one thing i would probably recommend to like every mother
because those little pills are amazing they say they help with recovery they
help with breast milk production um my doula got hers done and she said they
gave her energy um for me i felt like it was like
anti-depression pills so we can get into that like the postpartum depression um but
they’re just really amazing little little pills so the placenta is very a
very great organ that um and most uh mammals i think all mammals beside
camels actually the mothers will eat there the moms will eat their placentas and i i remember seeing uh my my dad
helped out with a veterinarian for part of his life and uh he neighbors we lived
out in the rural area and he would always go they called him up you know when there was a trouble with a birth or whatever so i
got to see some of those at a very young age yeah so yeah i guess why not why don’t we go into yeah other things
surrounding pregnancy and the birth not just necessarily those two things but things that go along with it like
potential challenges like postpartum depression um maybe i’ll think of some other things here while you tell them
yeah and i can give some i want to share too in case there’s some others out there mom expecting moms having the same
issues um the the other things that i felt were extremely helpful that i learned through
the first pregnancy so being sick all the time just and it’s nausea it’s you know just
feeling nauseous all the time the c-bands so that you wear on your wrist they hit an acupressure point um
i learned about those in my second pregnancy um and they were
amazing they would immediately stop the nausea um and i could you know function normally so i highly recommend them and
i got to the point where i was like so sensitive i could tell when the band had shifted and moved away from that acupuncture point so it’s really great
for for morning sickness the other thing that really was a relief to me and i can talk
more through it with pregnancy was the chiropractic care so getting adjusted um while pregnant every
time i adjust i just felt like this relief and they work a lot on you know positioning the baby so that’s another
concern with birth safe bursts like is the baby in the correct position has the baby
moved head down and they’re you know women like there’s so many things to stress ever when you’re pregnant well
curse what’s the baby’s position how is the baby and um chiropractic care can really help shift the baby um and you
know to allow for more optimal birth uh with my son he came out great my
daughter actually was um kind of shifted a little weird so
um i was able to do the natural breath and everything but like the the midwife had to move my leg and stuff as she was
coming out and when she came out she was not breathing so again something someone may be uh you
know concerned about and um when so she came out and she wasn’t breathing
i was holding her and um honestly at that moment i was feeling like you know
connected and i’m like okay this is now out of my hands like um i did it i her
pregnancy i was in labor for like over 24 hours and with my son it was like five hours so you know completely say oh
the second pregnancy should go faster than the first and you know there’s all kinds of stuff but anyways for her it’s
very long labor so when she came out i was like oh my gosh i’m done like i am done like just i was so physically done
i just didn’t have energy for anything else and when she wasn’t breathing i was holding her but i wasn’t honestly i was
not concerned there was never any fear that entered my mind or anything like that i’m just holding her it’s almost
like i picked up fear in the room but again i’m just holding her just happy to be done
um and then they put an oxygen mask on her and then they got her breathing but with her her head was so misshaped um which
is how she came out and breastfeeding so there’s a lot of that
can be a big struggle so when i went to feed her she ate good for the first like 12 hours and then it was very painful to
nurse so that’s a sign that there’s you know problems and why a lot of mothers i may choose not to breastfeed is when it
becomes so painful it’s like well you can’t do it um or you know of course it’s just not working um but my
chiropractor who was awesome actually came to our house it was a saturday morning and she came over and she
adjusted there on my daughter um and then after she was and by adjusting
they’re not like pop in the back or anything like that like they were doing cranial sacral um and they would work in
her mouth too and after she was adjusted she ate perfectly and it was just wonderful so that was another thing
thinking back like me and if i didn’t have the experience like i wouldn’t have been able to breastfeed my daughter um
with the positioning and everything like it all just lines up to help the cranial sacral stuff is amazing i um
i heard so much about it so i finally got a chance to to try that out a couple years ago and
you know being energetically energetically sensitive it’s just i was just amazed at how profound uh
an impact that could have with just such a it’s almost like magic but no it’s a
really in-depth science you know the um up ledger he’s written books about the the cranial sacral pump and how that
whole mechanism worked but it really is if uh if anybody’s hasn’t tried it that that’s interested i
would definitely recommend that maybe switching topics because i know you’re um but it’s still related i know
you’re interested in um animal totems and um
it’s interesting i just had a cop coming back around and spin out a little bit but it’s it’s raining today so there’s
this animal distort right we all seen the court cartoons with the star uh stork if i’m saying that even right
do you have any insights on that or i mean just in general were there any um i mean animals that had surrounded uh the
birth or any wisdom uh from them yeah um so i’m not sure that i by the way a
squirrel fell out of the tree earlier on our talk that’s what christie mentioned that but she said really quietly though
yeah it’s been interesting uh that was when i was talking about my son which i feel that’s like my son he’s like go
hard or go home um but he okay so stork you know the stroke
doesn’t really resonate with me much but maybe it’s thought of as like a i don’t know a messenger but for me i was into
um so elephants are really great motherhood totems um also cows
so actually in my birthing room i have i had a huge like two by two picture two
foot by two foot picture of a painted cow and i had that on the wall and i put the intent like okay you know i’m
calling on um cow energy to help me um with this process so there’s some great motherhood
totems out there but i think whatever resonates with you if you’re drawn to that yeah and there’s just you all you
know you go into any like history museum or art place well mainly
history places and there’s just the whole fertility symbols right i mean it used to be a huge thing even with
shamans and yeah yeah and for crops even too and
well you know i guess we can start wrapping this up a little bit right unless you i do want to uh i alluded to
this at the beginning and i want to kind of maybe turn the tables just a little bit here and i know that christy will be open to
this because just about all my friends have an open mind even though they might not um
even be comfortable with it they would at least hear me out and consider something but and i would say that i’m
not for or against this it’s just some interesting information
that i’ve never heard before um and it’s from this like heavy duty i
would just say otherworldly practitioner and she’s actually a mother too which is
even weird and i have questions about this you know like i said i’m not for or against it but i hadn’t heard before that
it’s almost like the perspective and this isn’t obviously not a value judgment for anybody um
and it’s separate from our everyday lives now too so now that i’ve built this up and like gave so many
disclaimers right um that a fetus is almost like a you know in a
way it’s similar to a parasite because it can’t rely on itself it has to rely
on another organism and able to grow and i was wondering about you know some of all the
challenges that come into that because it’s not like a yeah it’s like it’s feeding off of a
host right i know it’s so weird it doesn’t i mean i don’t know kids as parasites because
if i was more prepared for that like i went from and i think that’s part of women being post with postpartum
depression i mean so i’m working you know very successful making you know 120
000 a year doing my job feeling like you know i’m powerful i’m a woman climbing the ladder corporate ladder and then i’m
able to get so many rewards like i do things and i get rewarded and then i go and have a kid um
and i’m you know i have this bond with this kid like i’m the only one who knows really
what this kid needs and i know that and then i it’s like my whole life changes that
and i remember going back to work and it’s like yeah i could do this but like i don’t want another woman watching my
child like i’m i need to be the one like i don’t want to pump milk and then leave it in the fridge for someone else to
feed my child like you know pumping is just it’s a whole nother like hassle like oh i have to you know then
you really feel like you know you’re just of service like oh i’m just you know here’s my mouth take it um they’re
with children yes they just they just need so much from you and i remember hearing um so they read like in the
first six months to a year their first chakra is really developing and their needs and their wants are the same so
for a baby their need and their one is the same which when you think about that like some people say oh they’re so needy just let them cry out or do that but
really if you honor that bond and their needs and wants and consider well it doesn’t matter whatever they want or need i’m
going to give it to them the mom is like a servant to them and that’s what is so hard for at least for
me it was going from being in charge of my life being able to set my own schedule to like now i’m literally like
serving this baby around the clock and and i know like yes i can someone else go do
it but i know no one else can do it as good as me and then i just feel guilty there’s so much guilt that mothers feel
with oh i’m just gonna like you know have someone else but um and our society doesn’t really support
it as much like maternity leave here is nothing like in other countries they at least give you like some countries give
you like a year which is great but if you can’t do that here it’s just it’s so
hard and you’re pulled in so many directions so you know isn’t it suggested isn’t it like the
five up to five or six that is pretty much this bond needs to be really strong
like all the time like yeah it’s you’re not supposed to like start to like wean them off or be independent for that long
right but then after a certain point it becomes important where you need to do that but up until that point it needs to
be pretty much like you’re saying all the time pretty much and i don’t i honestly i don’t know how i would do it
you know um especially with now they’re even being i mean it’s you know the pros and cons to everything to be
um with more diversity in the workplace and giving women more power in the workplace which i’m all for that obviously but the responsibility they
have not only there and then if they want to consider motherhood too it’s just like wow you
know it’s we’re talking superwoman at this point right well yeah and eventually you just you know a woman
can’t do that all like let’s be honest um there has to be you know give and take and that’s something that i i don’t
think is honored especially not in where we live now that you know that um
just how important it is for the mom to be there and there is going to be that pull there is going to you know
there is just that bond but anyways oh but with the the five to six and that’s something that i is that
right happy you sent me that parenting thing that mentioned that that bomb stays because so my son is four or four and a
half and my mother keeps saying like oh you need to get him in preschool and you need to get him like you know out of your house
and going out and he means to be involved in sports and he needs to be doing all this stuff and i still feel so like connected to him
even with like you know i don’t know simple things like you know if he has problems going to the bathroom
or if he needs help in the bathroom like is he going to feel safe enough doing that with someone else which we end up
leaving him with a grandparent and he and he was not safe enough you know he didn’t feel comfortable enough and he
ended up holding it the whole time so it’s just little things like that and i know you can make children attendant at
such a young age but i was happy when i read that that that bond can stay till five or six because then it gave me
permission i mean my intuition was saying like i’m not ready for this and i don’t think he’s ready for this um
but then it was just a reassurance that okay so i’m not gonna you know i’m not ready for it i don’t know if he’s ready
for it so i’m not gonna do it yeah you know again i can’t speak from experience here
but you know i can just witness to my niece and nephew and um yeah they’re gonna have pretty much
their entire lives for independence uh right and now even uh younger and younger ages even before preschool they
they want the kids even before preschool and you know for some people that might work out but i i just i see we need to
support all um different types of um parenting methods too and another one uh
is homeschooling i think that should be an option i think the challenging part uh it is and the challenging part of
that would just be social social interactions that would be spending enough time to have all that
scheduled where that just comes with regular school so that’s one benefit of just regular typical schooling but i see
so many benefits in that because i know for me you know coming up i was just my curiosity for wanting to learn was
just beaten out of me you know i had to rediscover that curiosity for wanting to learn um but yeah you know it’s but you
know like we um everything could be turned into an opportunity wendy rap
i kind of felt like i had a loose end with the the parasite children’s parasite i don’t want to simplify it to
that because it sounds a little silly but um you know it’s kind of off topic
but that idea originally comes into some really deep sears
and clairvoyance that can gone back into the past ancient ancient past and said well
that’s not how we always used to be um reproducing like that according to their
worldview like again like this is just information to me i probably shouldn’t be repeating it unless i can verify my
own experience but and for it’s a long drawn out road of how it changed how it is now but then
again i don’t know i guess i would question like is it really much different but you’d have to interview a lot of moms and see like what you know
because there is that you know honestly there is that you are giving and giving and not getting anything back and um so
yeah it’s um it’s hard well christy thanks so much for sitting
down and doing this and i am um you know even this is mostly awkward for
me i know you said you were nervous at the beginning but it’s mostly awkward for me because this is not the typical topic i would
be drawn to but uh since you’re so cool and your husband’s so cool i’m glad to do this
i’m so great and if i can just say any less words i don’t know if any mothers will listen
to this but i feel like just the biggest thing is following your intuition and um
you know supporting like we mentioned josh and you know having support i feel like we all should be supportive no
matter what path you choose there’s for moms there’s not an easy route and you
know choosing to stay home with your child is you know has its own challenges
so all of it just presents so much so many challenges that we really just need
to support each other and um i think too the other thing is just respecting the
mom’s intuition if the mom says this is what she means and that’s what she needs very good yeah i couldn’t agree more
because i mean and this expands to all areas of life right support and when we can help each other especially help
ourselves so we’re in a position so where we can help others that’s what it’s all about for me at this point so
all right christy thank you so much
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