Easy to remember shortcut to this blog post/article: https://tinyurl.com/3wayforgiveness
The description for this 3/7/2022 Insight Timer Live talk (perhaps somewhat related to my previous talk The Psychology of Customer Service Apologies):
For 15 minutes or so I invite discussion on forgiveness in general; from experience; as an ideal; as consideration; phrases for three-pronged forgiveness practice: 1) forgiving another/others 2) asking for forgiveness 3) forgiving self; not condoning actions; and next level front-loading forgiveness
A variation of pre-show notes:
- religious or non-religious
- not weakness, submission, failure, loss, blame
- ideally many would like to but can’t, not sincere, not ready, exploring, etc so allow non-forgiveness
- yoga teacher of mine very wary of forgiveness
- not condoning actions
- taking self-responsibility
- lifting of burden for oneself
- Ajahn Chah boulder story
- Andrea Fella: thousands of miles apart and being angry and begrudging likely didn’t affect other person
- anger like tossing a hot coal to burn another
- not accepting anger like not accepting a gift — it goes back, or belongs to the giver
- pain in my heart and behind heart in meditation
- picking up trash
Three-way forgiveness phrase:
To those I may have caused harm knowingly or unknowingly through my thoughts, words or actions I ask you to consider forgiving me.
To those who may have caused me harm knowingly or unknowingly through their thoughts, words or actions I freely offer my forgiveness as best as I am able at this time.
And for any harm I may have caused myself knowingly or unknowingly through my thoughts, my words, my actions I offer my forgiveness; I forgive myself as best I can at this time.
- https://aligningwithearth.com examples:
- (my) next level front-loading forgiveness
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